That's how a lovely man I once knew used to greet me.
I felt beautiful and it warmed my heart.
A few years later I had a moment of enlightenment when I heard the quote..
'We get more of what we focus on.'
Suddenly things slotted into place.
The signs, the words that were meant for me and the message was clear.
We have all at some point, (I admit that I have) complained, moaned about or judged someone.
'She is an ugly woman,'... 'He is a mean guy,'.... 'They are out for themselves,' ...
People are selfish,'.... 'Nobody really cares,'.... 'The world is a scary place.'
Have you occasionally thought this way and what did it do for you?
'It's being realistic,'... 'Keeping myself grounded,' ....'Telling it as it is,'.....'Not deluding myself!'
Mmmmm or maybe ... you are deluding yourself.
Anger, resentment, frustration, jealousy and judgement simply get you...
more of that! It's what you are focusing on - As Gandhi said...
'An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.'
I'm not suggesting you become a push-over or a martyr but simply that you focus on looking for the good. This way you have a much better chance of finding it ;-)
Our 'environment' is made up of the vibes, energy, words and focus we contribute to that environment. How do you affect yours? Is it a positive or negative influence?
YOU are NOT flawed but your approach may have been misguided, as was mine.
Now...when I meet someone I often call them beautiful.
Am I being disingenuous, false or patronising?
I am telling you now I 100% am NOT. I mean it FULLY -
Because now, I automatically look and find the beauty in someone in an instant.
It may be something obvious, like...beautiful blue eyes, a great smile or glowing skin,
but often it is something much deeper and something MUCH more beautiful.
Their wit, their passion, their strength, their kindness.
These are the things I can see and the more I see them, the more I get!
This is because a while back I trained myself to look for them and that is now what I always spot first.
It makes life so much more beautiful for me to this way.
So next time I meet you, how about you look for the beauty in me and say it back. I guarantee your world will become a much more beautiful place.
Let's plant the seed of change.
It's your CHOICE what you focus on ...
Love Danielle xx
(Photo Credit of Alana Ellis Photography)
Once upon a time…
there were a couple of clever men (with a passion for delving into the mind) who noticed something strange…. they noticed an unusual pattern.
They noticed that troubled people who went to particular ‘teachers’ were becoming happier and having a more fulfilling life after talking to them.
The two men watched closely and observed the similarities, noting all the systems, particulars and strategies that these teachers used naturally and spontaneously to build rapport, influence, persuade and ultimately to get such phenomenal results.
They studied their notes, started experimenting and soon were creating new magnificent lives for all around them! They had mastered how to use both their physical and non-verbal language to easily convince people how to change their minds….
These notes turned into what’s best known now as Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
Imagine if… YOU had the power to influence people’s minds?
Imagine if… it is possible to use certain words to trigger hypnotic reactions.
Now imagine… that as well as verbally you could do this in writing?
You may not believe this can actually happen, but I’m here to tell you that it can, because over your lifetime you’ve been hypnotized unaware to accept certain trigger words.
The process started even before you could talk!
You might not ever suspect that these hypnotic words can hold such power because they are so simple – But when you start to use them consciously and correctly, they will explode your influential powers of persuasion!
So… I have already used six of them to keep you reading plus probably the BIGGEST hypnotic trick in the book…. do you know what it is?
Imagine you did know….
Yes you got it ….the first one is IMAGINE…
Why is this so good?
Because it by-passes and sneaks past your critical mind and goes straight to the fun task of playing, fantasising, having some fun with your unconscious mind!
You see once in here, in this part, the unconscious – it cannot tell the difference between what is real or imagined. So as far as your brain is concerned, there’s no difference between visualizing it and it being reality. This is very powerful!
Seen as your unconscious is what rules you and all your decisions, it makes sense to stimulate it right? Simple.
Oh yes…So..the other 5 things and the BIGGEST Hypnosis trick (used above)…??
You will just have to .. join us on
THE NLP PRACTITIONER TRAINING
in Dublin…. to find this out…. and a LOT more!!
Would you like to help someone who doesn't want help?
Yes - I get asked this a LOT....
'How can I help 'so and so'? He/She doesn't want help, doesn't want to address the issue or doesn't even know there is one! ....
First, thing to keep in mind is, this is very common and you are not the only one tearing your hair out with love and concern for someone.
So...how DO you help?
Let me tell you a very short story....
Yesterday I was gardening. While weeding my flower bed I came across a very tired looking Bumble Bee. He did not want to move and I did not want to hurt him.
I poked him a little and tried to move him on so I could continue but he wouldn't budge,
and I attempted to lift him but he kept curling up and moving away. I was afraid I would injure him.
I wanted to put him somewhere safer but my help that he was adamantly refusing appeared to be doing more harm than good.
Then I realized...'Maybe he is just weak and hungry!'
I ran inside, put a little honey on a spoon and brought it out to him.
Tentatively he crawled nearer, smelling its scent and soon he was sucking it up with gusto.
He ate all on the spoon and sat there for a minute as though looking at me.
We stared at each other, he then buzzed...and flew away.
My 'help' in moving him was not what he needed.
He did not need my self imposed beliefs, my viewpoints, my opinion on what he should or shouldn't do, my pushing.. or my poking and prodding.
What he needed was something sweeter, something more satiating, more fulfilling ...
something more positive.
He would then, naturally and in his own time, get the energy and motivation to fly away.
When he was ready and had digested the 'sweetness'.
The end result was the same. The approach different.
Even though we mean well, pushing and prodding and offering your 'opinion' to someone, only moves them further away from us. Instead a 'sweeter' approach is to tell a story like the one I used with you above. Metaphors work. They access the unconscious mind on a deeper level and the listener will digest the info and make their own decisions from it.
Remember we are only ready for change when we decide to be.
No one else can make someone change...but YOU can set an example.
Most of all if you are concerned about someone and want to help, the best approach is to listen -
really listen (not so as to interrupt, judge or pass your advice - only if asked).
To love and tell them you love them.
To be present and constant and to tell them you are there for them whenever they need you.
When they are ready they will come to you.
Remember, you catch more bees with honey than vinegar ;-)