Is it fate or destiny?
“We fail to say the right words, because we choose to say the wrong words!
We choose to say the wrong words, because we fail to think about the right words!”
- Ernest Agyemang Yeboah
What does the above quote evoke in you?
Do you agree with this or do you believe you always say the right thing?
Do you think before you speak and what are the consequences of not doing so?
Of course we all know that we can 'put our foot' in it at times and sabotage our relationships
and rapport with others by sometimes saying the wrong thing.
But are we fully aware of how much our words actually sabotage ourselves also?
Let's take the words 'Fate' and 'Destiny' -
pretty similar, right? .
..Or are they...
Fate is from the Latin fatum, which means "that which has been spoken."
Destiny is from the Latin destinare, which means "to make firm" or "to establish."
Which would give YOU more power, control, self motivation and direction?
Destiny or course.
If you want to achieve something, have a goal, want to get somewhere..
You have to firmly establish a destination.
Leaving it to 'fate' might not get you there.
Personally I believe our fate is a result of our destiny
which is determined by our words and actions.
If you are ready to take control of your words, direction in life and ultimately your destiny,
then its time you joined us on the next NLP Practitioner Training.
Your words and your world will never be the same again ;-)
I believe in more than 'positive' thinking.
I believe in 'practical' thinking,
which opens and expands your mind and leads to a more fulfilled and complete life.
This quote sums it up perfectly with these powerful words.
"She sees in black and white,
thinks in greys,
but loves in colour."
Think smart, love being wrong and dream big with a passion.
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Are you like Scrat?
Poor Scrat was a little saber-toothed squirrel in the animation Ice Age. He was constantly chasing his beloved Acorn - to no avail - and always resulting in disastrous consequences for him and his surroundings.
Is there a message in this?
Well...last week I GOT the Acorn ;-)
An exquisite little gift of handmade jewelry by my love. He knew I would appreciate the symbolism.
It got me thinking.....
Are we always chasing, striving, hoping, wishing, dreaming.
Longing for something or someone just out of arm's reach?
If you find you may be doing a little Scrat impersonation at times, think about how it leaves you feeling.
If you are chasing a bit too hard then you might be feeling at the same moment a sense of 'not enough' as you are without it. What does that do to you?
I recently felt 'loss'. It hurt and I felt very afraid. I wasn't sure what to do next.
I was confused and perplexed at the change in the status quo.
Do we sometimes tend to get too familiar, too reliant, too complacent with 'things' as they are?
Well, my little acorn is now around my neck to remind me of two things.
1 - We all have our 'acorns' - our seeds, our dreams.
Whether you can see it or touch it, YOU still have it. BE it and live your life from that place.
Be strong, brave, courageous. Yes dream big and have goals BUT and it's important -
DO this from a place that you are enough already.
2 - BE present. Be in the moment. Be grateful.
My little gift might one day break off from my neck.
I could lock it away and never wear it at the risk of loosing it, but then I would not be enjoying it.
Instead I choose to hold my head high, allow the sun to shine on my face,
and even if one day I have to say goodbye .... I know that really, I always have it within me.
Live with purpose and gratitude at every moment.
Remember you were that nut who stood his ground ;-)
Love Danielle xxx
It's the principle of it....
This past weekend I saved a sheep I named Popeye (he loves Olives - that's for another story!) from going to the 'factory'. Instead he will live out his life with lots of friends in a happy home.
This reminds me of a terrible joke - brace yourself!
Question; Where do sheep go on vacation?
Answer; To the Baaaaaaahamas of course! ;-)
I know very baaaaaad .. lol...
I saved him as I felt it was a matter of principle. I could save him if I really wanted to.
So I acted on my principles. Once I had decided I would, I knew it would happen and it did.
And why the joke ...you may be wondering?
One of the principles I learnt from my NLP Training was about the power of humour.
I once heard Richard Bandler (the Co-creator of NLP) say..
'The moment we begin to laugh at our problems, we change chemically.'
Ever since then I have chosen to add a lot of humour to my day and it helped.
Another thing that helped me was understanding that once we had absorbed these key fundamental messages and 'rules' of the universe - so to speak - we could apply them in many different ways.
One of these such principles for example is 'There is no failure only feedback.'
This means we keep taking the lessons and we keep going. Either way we are winning.
One of my students from the last NLP Training really 'got' this.
He recently told me that everything changed for him so drastically once he really grasped this fact. He now knows he can find his own 'techniques' to help people change, once he has applied the principles. An incredibly powerful and effective Martial Artist and Mind Coach, Fabio Chuairi is now drastically changing lives with his combination of talents, skills and true integrity and passion.
Here are some other KEY NLP Lessons for life that my students have learned.
Helena Gilhooly, who makes beautiful inspiring jewellery and angels over at Busybeaders came to The BootCamp. She says she 'learnt to listen to her inner self more... and is more aware of her use of language ..and is able to.trust her gut instinct more.'
Language, both internal and external is a very major part of what we talk about in NLP.
Your language will dictate your direction of your thoughts and hence how you feel.
Change that and you will change the next results.
Another student, fully absorbed another of the key NLP Principles, which is that, 'We have all the resources we need within us'. She has now since taken the world by storm with her new found confidence! She says ...'I've learnt to prepare for my success in advance. Whether you think you can or cant your right!' Karina Murray from Aunua agrees with Henry Ford's quote which is in The BlackBelt MasterMind Book and now knows how to fully apply it. We have to PLAN for success the same way as we often unfortunately plan for failure. As Bandler says...'Disappointment takes adequate planning.' Karina has learnt from her NLP Training which way is much more beneficial for her! Visualisation here is key.
More wonderful learnings and lessons for life came from a very talented woman, who creates bespoke gifts and who trained as an NLP Practitioner with me. She says.."I have learned that all I need is within myself. I have stopped looking for validation in others, stopped playing old movies and started really seeing things for how they are and not how I think they are. People give so much away about what they really feel and think without really realising it. As you say the map is not the territory." Geri Fortune from Pebbles & Wax. and Sew Enchanted.
(Check out her gifts for Christmas!)
This is one of the BIGGEST NLP lessons - The Map is not the Territory - meaning what we believe is the reality may not always be so. To each one of us it is different. Learning how to read people gives us so much more insight into how they tick.
Deirdre O'Rourke O'Sullivan from the beautiful Kays Flower School and the most supportive and loving family I have ever seen, came to The Bootcamp and then did a Walk the Talk.
Little did she know how much these lessons would help her later in life.
She says she learnt that "It's okay to move on .. move away .. and move forward,"
..and she did just that after beating Cancer and getting on with her life. What a lesson for life xx
"Life is a choice between fear and love, and when I asked myself better questions in a contextual way everything became clear. What I mean is that away from everything we think we know there is an inner us that speaks loudly and clearly. The trick is to find a way to listen to it by asking better questions. That is my favourite lesson of the many, many, many!"
Patrick Mercie was already an incredible man and coach before The NLP Training.
Now with this level of understanding of the principles of NLP and the impact of powerful questions, he is simply unstoppable, and is now planning to run 11 Marathons in 11Days!
What a guy!
Alan Hennessy, a Social Media Consultant & Broadcaster is the most likeable and charismatic man you could meet and when he joined the NLP Practitioner I knew that he would really GET the learnings and I was right.
He says.."Remember Life is for the living! If You have self-belief you have everything you need. The NLP course taught me to understand how the mind really works. When you can pick up and understand how people are really thinking and the actions they make, you understand that every situation can be manipulated for a positive outcome. The course also provided me with the ability to turn negatives into positives in everything we do and say. When it comes to business and presentations, body language and actions play a key role in moving people from pain to pleasure, through anchor points, words and tones. Every day since doing the NLP Course has made me more powerful and has given me the sense to know I am in control of my mind. I now have a strong inner peace with myself and self-belief and I know how to channel it."
His business Kompass Media is now going from strength to strength!
Lisa Redmond blogs with great insight about Life and Relationships over at Life Decoded.
After The NLP Training she said .."The biggest thing I learned was the importance of creating doubt in your assumptions and how it can open you up to new perspectives. Also how asking the right question can help you get to the core issue much faster."
Again, asking the right questions comes up and what will help change your mind to one that is open to new and more exciting opportunities. Thank you Lisa.
Lastly, Colette Coughlan a smart, very savy lady and a Disability Advocate and an ambassador for
D15LEaders says after attending The Bootcamp that ..
"One of the major things I realised by doing the boot camp was analysing my relationship with people and concluding that I have no unfinished business (or beef) with anybody in life. I am happy in me and with me. There are so many small things which amount to a positive outlook on life. Also you know now how you automatically appear in my brain when I feel threatened or are in fear. That for me is SO powerful." - Wow, what a result from 1 day and may I add that me appearing in her brain as she puts it has been good thing lol ;-)
I could go on and on. Of course you can see more here also.
If you want to learn these principles for life and get results such as these incredible folk
then make the decision now to make 2018 your best year yet.
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An apple for you...
A little girl was sitting, looking at two shiny apples she was holding in her hands.
Her mother came by, noticed and softly asked her daughter with a smile..
"Sweetie, could you give your mom one of your apples?"
The little girl looked up at her mom for a moment, then suddenly took a quick bite on one
of the apples, and then on the other. The mother felt the smile on her face freeze
and she tried hard not to reveal her disappointment.
As she stood debating internally what to say next,
the little girl handed one of the bitten apples to her mom, and said,
"Mommy, here you are - This is the sweeter one."
No matter who you are, how experienced you are,
and how knowledgeable you think you are,
always delay judgment.
Give others the privilege to explain themselves.
What you see may not be the reality.
Never conclude for others.
This is your 1st NLP Lesson -
The Map is not the territory ...
it makes for a much happier life!
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This IS a very special occasion!
Photo Credit of Alana Ellis Photography
Footsteps in Rome on a special holiday...
Loved ones gathered together - enjoying and savouring in the moment.
Tasting stories from the past and languishing in bitter sweet photos and memories.
Reminded once more of lessons past forgotten.
When I returned from my weekend in Rome I felt a little sad to have said goodbye to my family.
I had really stayed present in the moment until the time of return.
That is when my 'forward planning' kicked in.
What I mean is.... "Disappointment takes adequate planning."
I had instilled a wonderful pattern - every time I would leave Rome,
I would feel suitably nostalgic and sad.
My ritual would start to kick in on the way to the airport and continue for a few days after home.
Now.. of course it is normal to miss the people you love when you're not with them...
but what I noticed was how EASY it was to trigger emotions from the past in a certain circumstance, environment or series of events.
This is what is called in NLP an ANCHOR.
We have so many of them. Some we are conscious of and many we are not.
Have you ever suddenly felt bad for no apparent reason?
This is very likely because an unconscious Anchor was triggered.
It could have been a smell, taste, situation, environment, look, sound, word, etc etc...
What is really great to know is that once we are aware of how they work
we can change them and also use them to our benefit.
I have decided to change my 'Airport' trigger to one of excitement at what is about to come next.
You see when we remember that EVERYDAY is the MOST SPECIAL of occasions,
we can then PLAN to get excited instead.
I trust you are excited by this concept and planning to take action on it.
My next talk this Thursday on NLP is completely Booked out but ...
if you want to learn more about this and many other ways to change unconscious triggers in you and others, then join us on The NLP Practitioner in March.
I look forward to sharing a very special occasion with you!
Love Danielle xxxx
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What story are you telling?
The sound of my runners crunching on the road was in sync with my breathing and the words that I kept repeating in my head. .....
An hour earlier I was feeling a little unmotivated, but had just seen a post from one of my students, which rekindled my desire to get out and moving.
I put my runners on and set out on my little 7km 'joggle' - a kinda wiggle-woggle of a run!
A few minutes in and that internal voice kicked in. Yup.. I still have one - loud and clear ;-)
The difference is that now I pay attention to it.
A few days previously I had finished 3 days of speaking and meeting some wonderful folk
at The Wellbeing Festival, about this very subject - 'Our Internal Voice' -
so I was primed and ready to hear what it had to say to me.
I listened carefully.
" Danielle, you're tired! You've worked hard this week. Take it easy!"
" This is just too much like hard work ... maybe I should just walk."
" The more I continue the harder it's going to get!"
" Oh god...I just cant do this.."
Ahem ...sound familiar at all?
Well anyhow..I decided to take action (as I do now) and shut it up!
So I said to myself firmly in my head ..."Come on Danielle, you can do this!"
It helped somewhat, so I continued.
But I noticed something very interesting.
Something I had noticed a long time ago.
Something that had previously in fact ... saved my life.
Eight years ago I was suicidal.
It was the lowest, most scary and loneliest time in my life.
I felt so afraid and overwhelmed by my pain (my negative feelings).
I know now that I am keenly motivated to move away from pain as fast as I can.
(Knowing what motivates you is very beneficial by the way).
The first step was realising that if I wasn't creating a story with a result in my head,
then I couldn't really 'feel' anything. What I mean is, if I wasn't focusing on the past or the future, and either making up a good or bad ending then I wouldn't feel good or bad.
Now that may seem simple but for me at the time it was life-changing.
It was exactly what I needed back then. I just needed that first step.
Now I am a Mind Coach, so of course I believe in having goals and focusing on results. This is what I do best with the people I work with!
But sometimes, when you're overwhelmed and in pain, you simply want to free your mind.
It's vital to know what is needed and when it is needed. Timing is key.
This is what focusing on the NOW does.
For some reason as I joggled along repeating "Danielle, you can do this", I started to notice it felt like pressure. I was in too much discomfort (ie; pain) to feel really motivated. I felt stressed by it. Like I had to achieve.
I changed my internal Mantra to ..." I am here right NOW."
Yes, I know this may sound weird and not very motivational but it ... worked.
Suddenly, I felt more present. I felt grounded in the instant. In that exact moment.
Repeating this inside my head over and over kept bringing me back to right now.
Right NOW - and in so doing I couldn't focus on the discomfort -
because we simply cannot do both simultaneously.
I focused on the instant and before I had time to wonder would I make it home ...
I was shuffling into my garden again and it felt good!
This is the power of your inner dialogue. Use it wisely.
The first step is to simply notice it.
Then decided is it useful to you and how does it cause you to feel.
If it doesn't serve you ..then change it...
Remember it's YOUR story.
So make it a good one.
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A Polish man moved to the US and married an American girl. Although his English was far from perfect, they got along very well at the start - but one day he rushed into a lawyer's office and asked him if he could arrange a divorce.
Thoughts from Danielle Serpico -
Your Mind Coach :-)