That's how a lovely man I once knew used to greet me.
I felt beautiful and it warmed my heart.
A few years later I had a moment of enlightenment when I heard the quote..
'We get more of what we focus on.'
Suddenly things slotted into place.
The signs, the words that were meant for me and the message was clear.
We have all at some point, (I admit that I have) complained, moaned about or judged someone.
'She is an ugly woman,'... 'He is a mean guy,'.... 'They are out for themselves,' ...
People are selfish,'.... 'Nobody really cares,'.... 'The world is a scary place.'
Have you occasionally thought this way and what did it do for you?
'It's being realistic,'... 'Keeping myself grounded,' ....'Telling it as it is,'.....'Not deluding myself!'
Mmmmm or maybe ... you are deluding yourself.
Anger, resentment, frustration, jealousy and judgement simply get you...
more of that! It's what you are focusing on - As Gandhi said...
'An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.'
I'm not suggesting you become a push-over or a martyr but simply that you focus on looking for the good. This way you have a much better chance of finding it ;-)
Our 'environment' is made up of the vibes, energy, words and focus we contribute to that environment. How do you affect yours? Is it a positive or negative influence?
YOU are NOT flawed but your approach may have been misguided, as was mine.
Now...when I meet someone I often call them beautiful.
Am I being disingenuous, false or patronising?
I am telling you now I 100% am NOT. I mean it FULLY -
Because now, I automatically look and find the beauty in someone in an instant.
It may be something obvious, like...beautiful blue eyes, a great smile or glowing skin,
but often it is something much deeper and something MUCH more beautiful.
Their wit, their passion, their strength, their kindness.
These are the things I can see and the more I see them, the more I get!
This is because a while back I trained myself to look for them and that is now what I always spot first.
It makes life so much more beautiful for me to this way.
So next time I meet you, how about you look for the beauty in me and say it back. I guarantee your world will become a much more beautiful place.
Let's plant the seed of change.
It's your CHOICE what you focus on ...
Love Danielle xx
(Photo Credit of Alana Ellis Photography)